It's not my Fault anymore

I am not the problem.  And I'm tired of being blamed for things that are simply not my fault.  After a real and genuine phone encounter with one of my girls in which she opened up about her feelings, my heart was sad for her.  She had gotten in trouble and gotten her feelings hurt by her dad and I was listening to it, trying not to judge him while listening.  Knowing there are usually two sides to kids' stories.  

So, wanting to make sure she was okay I asked to talk to her dad.  He then said she only gets like that when she's on the phone talking to ME.  The same old hurtful words coming out of his mouth, aimed toward me, aimed at my heart.  I have to let it go but first I needed to write about it!  

I'm letting it go.  I don't need his validation anymore.  I am living and acting right and being a great mom and I don't need any more of his mind games.  I wonder where we derailed.  I know that I am not the total cause of our divorce.  It took two people to break it.  It is not my fault.